It's been some time since I've sat down to blog and create stuff that I actually felt like sharing with the world. As many of you know, I'm not one to put work out without meaning or purpose attached to it. I'm also a very private person in many ways but when something happens in my life that needs to come to light in order for me to move forward, I am not very shy to express it.
If you are new to my blog, I aim to write about nutrition, wellness, and lifestyle topics that I hope will be helpful to you. I also share personal posts here and there of relevance because I never like to sugar coat the real shit that comes up from time to time.
So this is where I've been and realize that..
They'll inevitably be times in life when the walls feel like they are closing in and the road ahead seems unclear.
I firmly believe that when this happens, courage and love are beckoned to keep the mind clear to figure out what to do next. I also believe that having faith and optimism are equally important in order to not lose perspective of what truly matters.
So this is what I know for sure (Oprah has just now entered my line of thought)..
No one goes into a deeply, loving relationship thinking that things will fail. I think we typically go into any partnership with optimism and joy that all will be okay and that anything that may come could be overcome..together. It's an awesome feeling, right? Comforting even, I would say.
It's fucking scary as shit when you realize that things are not what they used to be..that things are not what you both want them to be.. Or worse..
It's even scarier when kids are in the picture and you have to dissect every action and decision in order to be 100% sure that you are doing right by them AT ALL TIMES. Then you pray that you are doing the right thing as parents and as individuals and once again, hope for the best.
The path I was on has changed and I need to continue believing that it is in the best interest of all involved. I need to believe that all will be fine regardless of what the road ahead looks like; and that I'll continue to handle it with grace, courage, love, patience and even with the occasional tears that will certainly fall.
If you are going through some kind of transition in your life, especially in your relationship (s), rest assured that all you are feeling will pass. It'll get better each day even when it feels like you are alone in the world and no one understands how lonely you truly feel.
Coping with change and the feeling that the walls are closing in on you is a scary thing for sure but it can also be liberating once your perspective shifts to a more positive state. When it does, here are some things I think are helpful:
Make your overall wellness your top priority.. keep moving, stay busy and don't forget to nourish yourself and give yourself extra love.
Make time for nature and connect with the world around you.
Find your tribe.. your true friends will always be there and so will your family (if you have a supportive one)
Connect with professionals such as coaches, counselors, therapists, etc. who can unbiasedly give you direction when you feel out of sorts.
Keep a journal of what's going on.. what's in your heart? The times when you feel your most vulnerable and lonely, are perfect for spilling it all on those pages.
Don't feel obligated to explain yourself to anyone who asks "what's wrong?".. do and say what feels right. Period.
Sit with your feelings and grieve.. cry if you have to and release it all.
I hope this post resonates with you somehow; and if it does please share it and let me know your thoughts in the comments below. I'd love to hear from you..